What is La Douleur Exquise?
1.
the exquisite pain of wanting someone that you know you can never have, and knowing that you will still try to be with them.
has drug like effects.
kate: so you'll sleep with him and then you'll hate him for sleeping with you and hate yourself for doing it?
lauren: yea. i'm psyched.
2.
The exquisite pain of loving someone unattainable.
"Was I addicted to the pain, the exquisite pain, of loving someone so unattainable?"
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3.
The pain of loving someone that you know you can never have; by circumstance or subjective decision.
Married to one; but loving another.
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4.
the exquisite pain of loving some unattainable.
jill: oh beth, have you fucked charles yet?
beth: La douleur exquise! i found him fucking tim...i didn't know he was a fag
5.
One Heart split in two. One part loving a husband as a friend and companion; the other part loving an unattainable lover.
Have been married for 21 years... have been loving another man for 25 years....
Pain is definitely there
