What is Stemmie?
1.
a lesbian who identifies with both femme and stud personalities and dress in the lesbian world, her attitude and dress change to meet the appropriate ocassion, and she normally does not fall strictly into one category the other.
Joan was neither a stud nor a femme. Joan was a stemmie.
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2.
WHEN SOMEONE IS SEXUALLY EXCITED.
"DON'T GET ALL STEMMIE, BECAUSE YOU SEE THAT GIRL IN A BIKINI"
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